5 In life

Taking a Different Path

I love blogs. I love getting to know people through what they write and post.  I adore tutorials and Pinterest is my new best friend.  But I am also, admittedly, a bit of a scanner. I am sure you are too.  When you read at least 20 blog posts a day, you start to get selective about what you read.

But there are a few blogs where I read every word, every time.  And my friend Krista’s blog is one of them.

Quite possibly, the reason I read everything she writes is because I know her, like, in real life!  We used to work together, and now that she is at home homeschooling her two amazing boys, reading her blog is a way to stay connected.  It also has a lot to do with the fact that she is an amazing writer.  Once I start, I just have to find out what happens next.  And I know that sometimes she is going to make me cry, and sometimes she is going to make me laugh, and all of the time she is going to speak from her heart.  I appreciate that kind of honesty.

Today, after giving me three cheers on her blog for helping her with her theme and header (have you all discovered picmonkey yet?  Because if not, you need to check it out.  It’s awesome.), she talked about how life sometimes travels a different path than we expect.

And this thought has stuck with me.  Because it is true, isn’t it?  We doggedly try to climb the hill even though our hamstrings are screaming, and rocks are falling on our head, there is a snowstorm, and the bridge is out ahead (okay, maybe it’s not always that dramatic)  and finally, finally, after we have been beaten down to the point of misery, we turn around and head on another path, only to discover that the sun is shining here, the road is easier to walk, and this was the way we should have been going all along.

Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t persevere.  Because I am all for determination and moving past challenges.  But I’m talking about the times when the door is shut and locked tight and for some reason we insist on banging our head against it in the hopes of breaking it down.

And metaphor aside, I have known my own version of this story.

My husband and I are unable to have children.  We spent six years of our marriage trying to make it happen.  We saw doctors, we read books, we took pills, we did acupuncture, we discussed scientific procedures and adoption.  (That is all a story for another day) At the end of this journey we were left with less than a 1% chance of having children of our own, and a ten-year wait list for adoption.  I can’t tell you how many tears have been shed in this process, how many times hope and disappointment intermingled, how many times I kept beating my fists against a closed door.

And yet, there was another path.  This path has allowed me to spend so much of my life and time with my dear friend’s dear children whom I love with all of my heart.  It allowed me to get to know and love this boy who is gone from this earth, but whose spirit lives on.  And when I wake up at night wishing for just one more day to sit by his side, I am ever so thankful for the path that allowed me so much time to spend with him while I could.  This path has given me a family I love (both by blood and by choice), a husband who continues to be my best friend, and time to do the things I love best (learning, taking classes, teaching, sewing, writing.)

It is not the path I would have chosen.  But I have no doubt in my mind that it is the one I was meant to be on.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Jeremiah 29:11

How about you?  Has there been a time in your life when you have found that there is joy in taking a different path?

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  • Reply
    December 4, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    Okay, so now you are making me cry! You are such an amazing woman, Andrea, and you have been an inspiration to me since the first time we met. I know God has wonderful things in store for you. 🙂

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    Suzanne McRae
    December 5, 2012 at 9:53 am

    Taking a different path can often lead to the most rewards. I have had to do this in my own life. I have had to learn to let go and trust. I felt that having being given a child who has autism that this was THE most challenging and difficult thing I could ever have been faced with, ever. Now 22 years later I am finally seeing that different path in a different light that I was led to. I now am able to see all the gifts that were waiting there for me to awaken to.

    I wish you an easy different path that is filled with love, hope and the most amazing gifts ever. I pray that it won’t take you as long or be as painful a journey as it was for me. As your friend said here, I am sure also that God has some wonderful things in store for you. Blessings to you and your husband. xo

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      December 5, 2012 at 6:29 pm

      Thanks, Suzanne. There are hard paths we all have to walk…wishing you a path filled with love and hope too! 🙂

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    Sara Carbaugh
    December 12, 2012 at 11:35 am

    I love this post so much! I know in my life I have had both the experience of choosing a different path and having another path chosen for me and they are both really hard to deal with initially. Once I realized that everything happened for a reason though and maybe this one door was closing just so that I could find another door that was open now for me, those decisions didn’t seem so difficult. It’s all very hippy dippy but I really think that this new mindset of mine has helped me make some big decisions, like stepping away from my business! 🙂

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      December 12, 2012 at 7:02 pm

      Sometimes there is something to be said for “hippy dippy.” 🙂

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