I am the first to admit that I like to be busy. As wild and crazy as life can be, I am the one who most often chooses to make it wilder and crazier. I do this almost without thinking about it, as I pile my already full “plate” with more projects, new hobbies, and a long list of “shoulds.” (Kind of like the way your eyes get bigger than your stomach as you pile your plate high with amazing food from the buffet table or potluck.) Although in moments of being overwhelmed by a huge “to do” list, I sometimes forget that I had a choice in the matter.
But choice I do have, and in the midst of my many self-induced (and very exciting!) projects, I am also making a conscious effort to take time.
Time to read a book.
Time to visit with family.
Time to meet with friends.
Time to listen.
Time to rest.
Time to leave the projects half-done to sit with a good cup of tea in front of a fire and chat with my husband.
And as much as I am in the habit of saying “yes” to so many projects, I am also in the habit of saying “no” to so many other good things which don’t quite seems as “productive” to my task-oriented mind. When friends ask to spend time together, the projects and due dates always seem more pressing and besides, there will be other times to get together, right?
But sometimes those next times just don’t come.
So I am practicing saying “yes” more often.
Yes to going out to dinner with friends.
Yes to visiting.
Yes to get-togethers.
Yes to just “hanging out.”
And although the projects still exert a strong pull, somehow I know, deep down, that these moments spent with others add up to much more than any other goal or achievement.
It doesn’t mean I am giving up on my dreams and goals and aspirations. And it certainly doesn’t mean I am going to give up being “busy.” (What on earth would I do if I didn’t have 10 projects on the go???) It just means, that when the question of how to spend my time today comes up, I will try to base my answer on what is most important, and that may not always be that new project I’ve just begun.
My brain may have it backwards, but my heart knows what is right.
In the midst of all the busyness of life, what are you taking time for this summer?